has someone ever asked you a question, but the way that they phrased the question illustrated to you that they have such a deep lack of understanding of the subject that you’d have to spend so much energy explaining the answer to them
and then you just say….
"nah, i’m sorry I don’t know"
Women hear it all the time from men. “You’re overreacting,” we tell them. “Don’t worry about it so much, you’re over-thinking it.” “Don’t be so sensitive.” “Don’t be crazy.” It’s a form of gaslighting — telling women that their feelings are just wrong, that they don’t have the right to feel the way that they do. Minimizing somebody else’s feelings is a way of controlling them. If they no longer trust their own feelings and instincts, they come to rely on someone else to tell them how they’re supposed to feel.